周末的三年级年级集会 ～思考“第一印象”的学习时间～
本周末，我们举行了三年级的年级集会。
这一次，由年级负责老师使用投影简报，以“第一印象”为主题，为同学们带来了一场内容十分清晰易懂的讲座。
一开始，老师向同学们抛出了一个问题：
“你们觉得，第一印象需要多长时间就会被决定？”
同学们纷纷回答：“3秒”“10秒”“一看到的瞬间”等。
老师说明，一般认为人的第一印象大约在3秒到15秒之间就会形成。
接着，幻灯片上出现了一个公式：“7＋38＋55”。
这是所谓的“梅拉比安法则”，用来说明人在沟通时分别从哪些信息中获得印象。
其中，7代表“说话的内容（语言信息）”、
38代表“声音的语调、大小、快慢等听觉信息”、
55则代表“外表、表情、动作、视线等视觉信息”。
随后，老师亲自做了示范。
他用几种不同的语调和表情，重复说同一句“早上好”，
让同学们直观感受到：即使是同样的话语，因为声音和氛围不同，听起来的感觉完全不一样。
在讲解过程中，老师强调了这样一个事实：
“人们在判断一个人的时候，往往不是根据‘说了什么’，而是根据整体给人的‘氛围’。”
尤其是在说谎或者言行不一致的时候，
听者更倾向于相信的，往往不是对方的“话语本身”，而是对方的表情、声音和整体气场。
这时，老师提到了我们常听到的一句话——“外表决定九成印象”。
他补充说，这里的“外表”，绝不是指“长相好不好看”。
真正的“外表”，包括：表情、姿势、视线、动作、整洁感，以及说话时的声音方式等，
这些全部都是可以通过自我意识和日常练习来改变和提升的部分。
随后，老师提问：
“那么，你们会以怎样的样子走进考试会场呢？”
他举了一个例子：
以前曾有学生穿着迷你裙、带着耳洞饰品去参加考试，结果收到了考场方面打来的电话。
老师说：“在别人还没来得及了解你的内在之前，就因为第一印象而吃亏的人，其实不在少数。”
听到这里，许多同学都认真地点了点头。
在此基础上，老师提出了在日常生活和考试场合中，希望同学们刻意去练习的三点：
抬起头来
看向对方
把声音稍微放大一点，把语调稍微提高一点
仅仅注意这三点，别人眼中的你就会有很大的不同。
老师最后总结道：
“当然，人真正重要的是内在。但要让别人有机会看见你的内在，就需要一个‘入口’，那就是第一印象。
第一印象不是天生的‘才能’，而是后天养成的‘习惯’，
只要有意识去改变，就一定能够改善。”
对三年级同学来说，接下来将迎来考试和升学选择，
也会有越来越多“初次见面”的场合。
这一次的年级集会，不仅仅与“学习”有关，
更是一次重新思考“别人眼中的自己是什么样”“自己希望如何呈现自己”的宝贵机会。
【校长感想】
关于第一印象，不只是学生，大人听了也会感到“这话说得真扎心”。
如果我们希望“别人多看看自己的内在”，
那么主动把“入口”——也就是第一印象——整理好，
或许也是一种礼貌，更是一种对他人的体贴。
在即将到来的考试会场上，
以及在今后人生中会遇到的无数“初次见面”的场合，
我由衷希望三年级的同学们都能用属于自己的表情与声音，自信地说一声：“初次见面，请多关照。”
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3rd-Year Grade Assembly – A Lesson on First Impressions
We held a grade assembly for the 3rd-year students over the weekend.
On this occasion, the grade teacher gave a talk on the theme of “first impressions,” using slides to explain the ideas in a clear and engaging way.
The session began with a question to the students:
“How long do you think it takes for a first impression to be formed?”
Students offered a range of answers—“three seconds,” “ten seconds,” “the very moment you see someone.”
The teacher then explained that, in general, it is said that a first impression is formed within about three to fifteen seconds.
Next, the slide showed the numbers “7 + 38 + 55.”
This refers to what is commonly known as the “Mehrabian’s rule,”
which describes the relative weight people place on different kinds of information when communicating.
Here, 7% represents the content of what is said (verbal information),
38% represents auditory information such as tone, volume, and speed of the voice,
and 55% represents visual information such as appearance, facial expressions, gestures, and eye contact.
To illustrate this, the teacher demonstrated several ways of saying the same phrase, “Good morning,”
changing the tone of voice and facial expression each time.
Students could clearly feel how the same words can be received in completely different ways depending on how they are spoken and the atmosphere that accompanies them.
The teacher also emphasized that,
“Very often, people judge others not so much by the actual words, but by the overall impression or atmosphere they project.”
In particular, when someone is lying or when their words and attitude do not match,
listeners tend to trust not the spoken words, but the person’s facial expression, voice, and overall demeanor.
At this point, the teacher referred to the phrase we sometimes hear:
“Appearance accounts for ninety percent of the impression.”
He was careful to add that this “appearance” does not simply mean having a “good-looking face.”
Rather, appearance includes facial expressions, posture, eye contact, movements, sense of cleanliness, and the way one speaks—
all aspects that can be changed and improved through self-awareness and effort.
The teacher then asked,
“So, in what kind of appearance will you walk into your entrance examination venue?”
He shared an episode from the past:
a student once went to an exam wearing a mini-skirt and piercings, which led to a phone call from the test venue to the school.
He commented, “Before people even get the chance to see what is inside you, there are honestly some students who lose out at the level of first impressions alone.”
Many students nodded in recognition at this point.
Based on this, the teacher offered three key points that he hopes students will consciously practice in their daily lives and in examination settings:
Keep your head up.
Look toward the person you are speaking to.
Make your voice just a little louder, and slightly raise your tone.
Even such seemingly small adjustments can make a major difference in how others perceive you.
The teacher concluded with these words:
“Of course, what truly matters is what’s inside a person.
But for that inner self to be seen, there has to be a kind of ‘entrance’—and that is your first impression.
First impressions are not a ‘gift’ you are born with; they are a ‘habit.’
If you are aware of them and work on them, you can definitely change them.”
For 3rd-year students, this is the season when they will meet many people for the first time—
at entrance examinations, at new schools, and in new environments.
This assembly was not only about study skills;
it was also a valuable opportunity to think about “how others see me” and “how I want to present myself.”
【Principal’s Comment】
The topic of first impressions is a thought-provoking one, not only for students but for us adults as well.
If we truly want others to “see who we are on the inside,”
then making sure that our “entrance”—our first impression—allows that inner self to be conveyed
is, I believe, both a form of courtesy and a way of showing consideration for others.
At examination venues, and in all the “first meetings” that await you in the future,
I sincerely hope that our 3rd-year students will be able to say “Nice to meet you”
with expressions and voices that feel genuinely true to themselves.
Keywords: 3rd-year students, grade assembly, first impressions, Mehrabian’s rule, entrance examinations
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